Okay people. I’m seeing way too much negativity about Christmas on social media right now.
Someone put their decorations up or ate a mince pie or wrapped a gift before December.
An advert gave someone’s child the idea that maybe Santa isn’t real.
People feel under pressure to provide the perfect Christmas, having seen the pictures of someone they’ve never met with a bigger tree or prettier baubles or beautifully hand-stitched, gold-plated, diamond-encrusted stockings.
Stop it. Seriously, just stop it.
This is not what Christmas is about. You might think I’m about to launch into a speech about how Christmas is about the birth of Jesus but, as I’m an atheist, that’s not going to happen. Obviously, it is about religion for many people but for others, like my family, it’s about a traditional festival creating some light and joy in the middle of winter. For whichever reason you celebrate it, it’s supposed to be a time for joy.
So your friend on Facebook has put up their tree in November. Is that really hurting you? No. Personally, we put up our tree a couple of weeks before Christmas Day. That’s just how we do it. Does that mean that our way is the correct way? Nope! I genuinely couldn’t give a crap when you put your tree up or when you take it down. I’m just happy to see my friends, acquaintances and that person on Facebook enjoying themselves because that’s what this whole thing is about!
The whole Santa issue is becoming a bit silly now. Many of you will know that we chose to be honest with Penny about it. She, at about age 3, guessed that the man whose knee she’d just sat on wasn’t really from the North Pole or has magical reindeer. I confirmed her suspicions. Do I judge those who don’t? Well, maybe a bit. Maybe I do think that telling a child that a magical being is watching them and if they’re not good, Christmas is essentially cancelled isn’t a good idea (except I have literally never heard of anyone actually following through on this threat, no matter how poor their child’s behaviour is). But that’s my opinion. I’m entitled to it, just as much as anyone else is entitled to the opinion that I’m destroying the magic of Christmas by not telling my child that Santa isn’t real. However, will I tell you off for how you choose to parent your child? Nope. It’s none of my business. I believe you’re trying to do the best thing for your child, just as I am. Our end goals are the same, we’re just going about it in a different way.
I will say that nobody, not me, not my child and definitely not Amazon are obligated to aid you in your parenting technique. Your child will hear that parents buy presents and that Father Christmas is a fictional character at some point because those are the facts. Stop complaining. Nobody has wronged you. You made the choice to keep up the fiction and you need to deal with the consequences. It’s still none of my business.
As for comparing what your Christmas looks like and what someone on Instagram’s Christmas looks like, please don’t do this. It will only make you miserable. Get ideas from other people. Be inspired by them. That’s a positive thing. But remember that your Christmas is special because it is yours. It’s the things that make it unique to your family that make it really magical. Create your own traditions. My favourite of our traditions is that we all watch Muppet Christmas Carol and drink hot chocolate together on Christmas Eve. It costs very little. It’s not very Instagram worthy. But it’s special and always makes me feel happy.
Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year. So quit bitching and enjoy it, for goodness sake!